23 July 2015

Online Dating - The Struggle is Real #1

Hello Lovely People,

I have a completely different post today. One that is way out of my comfort zone and if I'm honest I'm slightly scared about sharing it. But, I'm gonna bite the bullet because I feel that this is a subject the is becoming more and more ''acceptable'' in today's society.

Online dating for me is the most annoying and frustrating experience that I have ever had in my entire 24 years and (almost) 9 months. It surpasses GCSE, A Levels and my four years at University.

The one thing that I can compare it to is Job Hunting... Yes I said it... JOB HUNTING!

Let me go into the way that I thought this would work. It's gonna turn into one of those expectation vs reality kinda post for a couple of sentences. I thought that I would be able to meet someone, go on a few dates, get close and all lovey dovey and shit and be together forever.. Oh, how naive I was. Not only did that not happen, every time I have thought about getting close to someone I have been put straight into the dreaded friend zone. God, I hate that place...

I have been friend zoned enough times to know it sucks and I will not be letting it happen any more. I have enough friends, I didn't go through the time consuming sign up process on POF, to just be friends. You can fuck right off with that shit!

I started online dating in Uni as a way to meet people (men), not necessarily for relationship purposes but I was having a really shitty time with my (uni) friends and wanted someone else to spend time with. Now, to begin with I did not tell anyone about this, I was actually ashamed of myself. That I couldn't find any man that would find me attractive in person without succumbing to the internet. Yes, I did feel sorry for myself and yes, I did start to think there was something wrong with me. Obviously, now I do not but I have still not met anyone who I think is suitable, you know the one person you would bring home to meet your parents.

Now, don't get me wrong, I do quite enjoy being single and 'free' but everyone gets lonely and I am not a fan of domestic animals, so I'm not gonna get a pet either. I currently enjoy my single life and the freedom is great but I am at that point in my life where the majority of my friends are in long term relationships, getting engaged, getting married and are married and when I see that, I just want a bit of it too!

So, I have decided to take all you lovely people on my dating journey with me. I will do some past and present experiences, which I hope some of you will relate to. I feel that by publishing this post I may have unleashed my insanity on all of you! Oh well! If you didn't know I was crazy before, you do now!

Much Love,



  1. Abi you are fantastic, funny and beautiful any man will be lucky to have you as a mate! I don't know much of dating as I never wanted to be a girlfriend then at 21 by accident met someone and we have been together since! So my thoughts are love happens when and where you least expect it! Have fun on your dates my darling and I look forward to reading your adventures.
    PS I did not do a lenghty sign up bit to be friend zoned made me laugh out loud x

  2. I met my fiancé online, so there are some good ones out there! But I did meet a couple of weirdos before him, so unfortunately there are those as well! :D most of my single friends do online dating and / or Tinder these days, I don't think it's as taboo now than it used to be. If you don't want to go to bars every weekend, where else will you meet anyone? In any case, don't give up on dating, on- or offline. The right person is out there for you, I'm sure of that! :)

  3. I feel your pain! I too am an online dater.... I hear good stories though so I intend to stick with it! lol


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